How come no one talks about how hard it is to get pregnant. I'm a 32 year old new mom, and well, it took us over a year to conceive. I know that doesn't seem like a long time or like a big deal. But it was REALLY frustrating. Who knew that you had a 30 second window once a month to conceive? Ok well maybe more like 5 minutes, but seriously. One day a month and you had to time it right... I wish I knew this sooner! I think its a big secret because your parents and society wants to put the fear of G-d in you when you're younger so you don't have sex!
It seems like it's harder to conceive when you're older, financially stable, or 'ready' for some reason. I kept thinking about all those teenage moms or poor moms you hear about on the news living on welfare with 10 kids while we were trying to have just one. How come it was so easy for them to get pregnant and have kids but not us? We're responsible adults, financially stable and ready for the next phase in our life...that's why it was so hard. You can't plan this having kids thing....
Unfortunately, I'm a planner. I'm a high school art teacher, and my life revolves around plans...lesson plans. I have things planned out days and weeks in advance for work. I try to keep my home life equally planned, like getting my Masters degree before thinking about having kids...getting married, saving money, getting a dog to practice being responsible! All this planning, and then the time comes to have kids, and well...that doesn't go to plan!
When we finally stopped stressing about it, it worked. So my advice to those of you who are trying to conceive, is to relax and not stress about it. It will work, eventually. (Ok, if it doesn't there is always Invetro. We didn't have to do this, but several of my friends had great success with it.)
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